Dudes like that...
I've never been shy about the fact that I, as a law of attraction, tend to prefer Korean guys. It's not a rule, I've been attracted to many a race since moving to Seoul, but it's just a general preference. This means that, when I go to clubs or bars, I want ones that are packed with natives, and Korean guys in general... well... they aren't the best flirters.
They tend to need a LOT of liquid courage to get over the fact that yes, they ARE about to talk to a foreigner, a foreigner they do not know, a foreigner that doesn't know any of their friends. They do a few shots... then a few more... then approach the girl they've been staring at in the club for the past hour, and... woo.
|This, but more Korean and less... made of felt|
My friends and I will be dancing at the club, looking super hot...
And then a guy comes up all...
|This, but skinnier and Asian|
I've met more than a few guys for drinks from OKC, but nothing there has really been what I would classify as "successful." I've done much better, quality-wise (and by quality I mean guys who are looking for more than just a friends-with-benefits situation), going through the tried-and-true method of meeting guys through mutual friends and hobbies. Quality though these gentlemen may be, relationship material they are not. However, I would say this is an easier way to go about getting your dating pool re-stocked.
If you're new to Seoul, the best options for finding guys to go on dates with are through social events. I've talked a lot about building a friend base on this blog and a lot of the methods to find friends can also be used to find lovers. One uniquely outlet for dating opportunities in Seoul is the Language Exchange. These will be full of people wanting to "learn language through conversation," but, a lot of the time, it's Korean girls and guys looking for foreigners and vice-versa. They're looking to "exchange their native tongue," if you get my meaning.
Some time soon I will be going on my first "sogeting," the Korean version of a blind date. When my friend first suggested the blind date I approached it with the typical western response of "do you think I'm that desperate?!" Then I remembered that the way most Korean couples meet is from blind dates. The guy I'm being paired with is Korean so I guess this is how he meets the ladies. I'll make sure to post about my experience here.
There's a brief overview of single life in Seoul, what have been some of your experiences?