When I first arrived I was not attracted to Korean men. There, I said it. It's not that they aren't handsome and/or sexy, far from it, it's just that I was completely uninterested in pursuing them. I would admire them from a distance but would rarely fawn over them.
|How stupid was I?!?!|
|Not only can you not quote all of Ghostbusters word-for-word, but also you have never seen Ghostbusters?! |
HOW DO I TALK TO YOU?!
|Are you kidding me?|
|This is just not fair|
|How the hell am I supposed to compete with that?!|
|They even look good in hats!|
NO ONE LOOKS GOOD IN HATS1
I hate to break it to you, ladies, and I'm happy to inform you, gentlemen; if you live in Seoul there will be an obscenely disproportionate number of hott Korean women to ugly Korean women in FAVOR of the hott ones. This is only very partially due to the Korean obsession with plastic surgery and mostly due to the fact that KOREAN WOMEN ARE GENETICALLY MODIFIED HOTTNESS AND CUTENESS MACHINES! Korean women also have extreme pride in their appearance and those in their prime dating years (20-35) pull out all the stops every second of every day. You will rarely see a woman in this age range looking schlumpy; her makeup will be perfect, her outfit will be adorable and flattering, and she will be wearing heels that make her legs look like they reach her neck.
|It's like they're breeding an army of hotness to take over the grossness that is America|
This is why most western men very rapidly are hit with a massive case of Yellow Fever. I know, that's super racist, but it's not meant to disrespect Korean women (I think they are superior, for why, I suggest you re-read everything I've said so far). I totally understand why expat men would be desperate to pick up a Korean girl; it doesn't make it any less annoying to expat girls who are looking to date someone from their own culture. I can't tell you how many conversations I've had with English speaking guys about how they now will only date Koreans. This is followed by a sad number of men who have turned me down because "you're awesome and all, but I this one Korean girl is currently recognizing my existence, so I'm going to work on that for a while."
I think the majority of the resentment expat girls feel towards the Yellow Fever of their male counterparts is because, by and large, Korean girls are WAY more likely to flirt with/ return affections to western men than Korean men are to western girls. This is a really good article, written by a Korean high school student, exploring the reasons why. Also, a lot of the time when a western girl IS flirted with by a Korean guy it's because he's had a little bit of liquid courage.
|Drunk Korean Men: The World is Their Bedroom|
To make a long story short (too late): pursuing only western men in areas where western men hang out is likely to not only cause massive ragefail, but may lead to a resentment of Koreans: neither of these things are awesome. This isn't to say that expat-coupling is impossible or not worth attempting, I am just saying that bars and clubs are NOT going to be the best places to go about it. Go to non-alcohol or sex-driven activities that are specifically for westerners looking to hang out with other westerners. Things like English-speaking volunteer organizations, group vacations (like those from AdventureKorea), and MeetUp activities would probably be the best way to finding an expat counterpart.
One last thing: why is it that there are so many expat man/ Korean woman couples where the guy is NOWHERE NEAR as attractive as the girl? Please, give me your thoughts in the comments section!